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Comment on how to not take it home by keighty

keighty — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 13:49:02 +0000

Those sound great– especially talking to people at work. Then you can process it and get it all out while you’re at work, so when you leave you’re able to leave it behind you.

For me, I’ve found that if I talk/vent once I’ve left the agency, it forces me to think about what happened at work. So if I come home and talk with my husband (which I did all the time as an undergrad), he was great at validating me, but it meant I was thinking about it when I was supposed to be on my time rather than the agency’s time.

My supervisor now asked us to pay attention to our cues for when we become too involved in a session. I think that’s a fantastic idea– that way, when I feel myself connecting too much with a client’s situation (going from engaged to involved), I can practice grounding techniques to bring myself back to a healthy level.

For me, my self care is my animals and exercising. If I’m taking care of them and of me, then I’m happy.

Good luck in developing these skills– it’s a lot more important for those working with sexual assault specifically.

Comment on reeeeelax by mchakrabarti

mchakrabarti — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 04:44:07 +0000

katie, i’m free (briefly) tuesdays & fridays (i work, but i could def. do lunch).

Comment on reeeeelax by brianna fucking matzke

brianna fucking matzke — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 03:21:30 +0000

updated! i think you’ll appreciate this one

Comment on reeeeelax by keighty

keighty — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 13:58:33 +0000

Are you kidding? EXTREMELY interesting. You are so fantastic! Doing an internship on top of a full course load is ridiculously stressful, and on top of it all, you’re dealing with your medical stuff AND your mind is on volunteering? That’s amazing! Do you know how wonderful you are? Because you are absolutely delightful, and you’re one of the strongest people I know.

Keep fighting, Megh! And we do need to do that lunch– I imagine you’re not on campus on Thursdays (your classes are MW, methinks)– but we should get together over winter break and do lunch. Yes?

Comment on No, seriously, WTF. by Amber

Amber — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 19:33:10 +0000

this is completely unacceptable, what is the reasoning for this ?

Comment on wedding blues by alina

alina — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 22:05:42 +0000

These are interesting points to bring up and I often wonder about them myself. I’ve concluded that life happens to people and then things like marriage and babies happen (whether it ends up working out for the best is still questionable), but I don’t think life has happened to me yet. I’ll just chill and save money until it does.
I wish more married people would reply to this entry, I think it’s really fascinating to read their reasons for marrying when they did.

Comment on list of things to do (already) by Ann-uh-bell

Ann-uh-bell — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 17:04:51 +0000

Yes. Please visit. As much as possible.

Comment on wedding blues by Renée

Renée — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 15:55:00 +0000

I agree with the other comment. Anthony and I got married after 13 months of dating, and we were 18 and 20, both students, we actually had stable income amazingly (although that has changed a lot over the years), but we no idea of what the future would be like (you can’t plan ahead for it, is my opinion. I mean, you can, but good luck it ever turning out like your plans.). We knew we loved each other a lot (and after 4 years of marriage, we still do), and that it would be really helpful if we got married, financially speaking. Since we were married we claimed our own income on our FAFSA instead of our parents’, which in turn gave us grants and more subsidized loans. I think marriage gives you a lot of autonomy as a couple, which can be good or bad depending on how prepared you are for that. I know newlyweds that are struggling with that because one or both of them didn’t know how to take care of themselves as real adults. That isn’t to say that their marriage will fail, but I do think it puts more stress on it initially. But, everyone is different, and you never know who is going to make it and who isn’t. Out of all the weddings we’ve been to, it was never the ones we thought that would end in divorce that ended in divorce. It goes to show that you never can tell.

Comment on wedding blues by keighty

keighty — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 15:47:18 +0000

Ha! Bobby and I were engaged when I was 20 after only 5 months of dating. Two years later, still no stable income, we’re both still students, and we’re going strong!

It’s different for everyone. I look at some people who do the same we did and I’m like, “WHAT are you doing?” but then there are others who date for even less time, and I think, “yeah, that’s about right.” When you know, you know. Life’s too short to put off something so important (in my opinion).

Comment on before and/or very close to moving time by mchakrabarti

mchakrabarti — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 23:28:45 +0000

you get a hotel room for the night. expensive, but i had to do it.